fix(fv-ml1): pin vLLM KV in bytes on meromero (22 GiB) and coder; gen-small KV 8 -> 5.5 GiB

meromero-rp sized its KV from --gpu-memory-utilization, and vLLM's profile
counts co-booting neighbours as its own non-torch memory. Three boots gave
20.37 / 26.74 / 29.04 GiB of KV, and the 2026-10-05 Docker-move restart cut
GPU 1 free memory to 3,981 MiB, below intern-decision's 32k-token budget.
Coder read negative KV on every co-boot. Both are now pinned, so util only
gates the boot check (meromero util 0.52 -> 0.47, just above its footprint).

GPU 0 plateaus at ~60 MiB free 1-2 days after a boot (Beszel), so
gen-small's KV drops to 5.5 GiB (461,215 tokens, 1.76x) and parakeet-nemo
stays on GPU 0 with room for its 3,840 MiB cap. GPU 3 stays clear.

Applied with playbooks/fv-ml1-kv-pin-20261005.yaml: GPU 1 free 3,981 ->
11,801 MiB, GPU 0 495 -> 5,039 MiB right after boot; all nine seats healthy.

stacks/meromero-charrp/compose.yaml

@@ -64,7 +64,14 @@ services:
       - --max-num-seqs
       - "${MEROMERO_MAX_NUM_SEQS:-32}"
       - --gpu-memory-utilization
-      - "${MEROMERO_GPU_MEM_UTIL:-0.52}"
+      - "${MEROMERO_GPU_MEM_UTIL:-0.47}"
+      # KV pinned in bytes (2026-10-05, Prime: 22 GiB). Util-sized KV was a lottery on
+      # this shared card: vLLM's profile counts co-booting neighbours as its own non-torch
+      # memory, so three boots gave 20.37 / 26.74 / 29.04 GiB of KV. With this set, vLLM
+      # skips profiling and util only gates the boot check (Free at start >= util x total),
+      # so util stays just above the real footprint (~43.6 GiB).
+      - --kv-cache-memory
+      - "${MEROMERO_KV_CACHE_MEMORY:-23622320128}"
       - --kv-cache-dtype
       - fp8
       - --trust-remote-code